🧭 SECTION 9: Life After the Exam

“The 11+ isn't the finish line. It’s the launch pad.”

You’ve done the mocks, sat the test, waited on the results — and now what?
Whether your child passed, missed out, or is still in limbo, this next season is where real growth kicks in. Here's how to handle the highs, the lows, and everything in between.

📝 1. What Happens After the Test?

  • Results drop — usually in October (or later if there’s a second stage).

  • You’ll use the results to rank your school choices on the CAF (Common Application Form).

  • Don’t panic if the outcome isn’t what you expected — your next moves still matter.

💡 Tip: Don’t delay submitting the CAF. Results or not, the deadline is October 31st.

🎉 2. When They Pass

Celebrate the effort, not just the outcome.

  • Let them know you’re proud of their discipline and courage.

  • Begin prepping mentally for the secondary school transition.

  • Help them stay grounded — it’s a great achievement, but it’s just the beginning.

💬 “We’re proud of how hard you trained — the win is just the bonus.”

💪 3. When They Don’t Pass

This one’s big. But it’s not the end.

  • Be honest but encouraging. Let them feel it — then help them reframe it.

  • Reassure them: their future is not decided by one exam.

  • Talk about Plan B confidently. Your attitude becomes their belief.

💬 “This doesn’t define you. You’ve trained your mind and that strength goes with you — no matter the school.”

🗂️ 4. Appeals & Waiting Lists

If you didn’t get your first choice:

  • You can appeal — especially if something affected performance on test day.

  • Or join the waiting list — which often moves after National Offer Day (March 1st).

💡 Accept a backup offer while still appealing. It’s strategy, not surrender.

🧠 5. Keep Learning Alive

After intense prep, some kids feel a crash. Here’s how to keep momentum — without burnout:

  • Encourage hobbies and curiosity again.

  • Let them write for fun, play logic games, or take on real-life projects.

  • Keep maths and reading light but daily.

💬 “You’ve trained like an athlete. Now enjoy the strength you’ve built.”

🎒 6. Prepping for Secondary

Once a place is confirmed — grammar or not — it’s time to grow up (a little).

Practical prep:

  • New school journey

  • Buying supplies & uniform

  • Organising routines

Emotional prep:

  • Talking through “what will change”

  • Building independence (bags, homework, timekeeping)

  • Confidence coaching — remind them they’re ready

🎯 7. The Bigger Picture

If your child didn’t get into a grammar school:

  • Remember: mindset, work ethic, and support shape outcomes more than school names.

  • There are incredible students in every kind of school — and they still smash their GCSEs, A-levels, and beyond.

  • You’ve built strong foundations. Keep building.

✅ Final Word

The 11+ is a powerful opportunity — not a passport or a punishment.
Whatever happens next, your child just went through something brave, tough, and growth-filled. That experience itself is a win.